Gentlemen, we are flawed by design. We were given an X and a
Y chromosome, a Feminine and Masculine genetic structure and energy. We are
complex, we are logical we are also naturally idiots because we are programmed
to overcompensate our masculinity because being feminine is “weak”. I believe
one of the key traits that separate a man from a gentleman is the ability to be
attuned to all of his strengths and use his weaknesses to his advantage. We are
taught that the world is ours for the taking and to take it by going after it
with everything we’ve got. What men are rarely taught is what we have to do to
keep it. This is a trait we have to look to our X chromosome for as it requires
something women have been taught from the moment they hit puberty, patience and
prudence.
Pa·tience \ˈpā-shən(t)s\
noun- the practice of not
being hasty or impetuous
Basically don’t react quickly. Men like me are always ready
to fix, do and strike while the fabricated “iron” is metaphorically “hot”. By all means exploit all opportunities, but sometimes
it’s better to wait and be prepared. As the old saying goes, “Good things come
to those who wait.” For me, this has been something very difficult to deal
with. When I want something, I want it the way I want it now! I recently have
been confronted with situations in my love life, my work life, and my personal
life where patience was the difference between my successes and failures. Patience
allows us to assess a situation and react properly. With patience we are forced
to think about our opponent’s actions and effectively protect what we so
desperately fought to obtain. However, all patience and no action is just a warrant
for vulnerability.
Pru·dence \ˈprü-dən(t)s\
noun- skill
and good judgment in the use of one’s resources
So know what you have, but don’t use too much of it or too
often. The dominating characteristics of our masculine nature encourages us to
show how much we are better than the next man or to prove how right and in control
we are to our women. Now this is natural, and not necessarily a bad thing but
we sometimes become overzealous to mask our insecurities. It’s never good to
overkill or smother a problem even if it is the right time to react. Using just
enough resource to achieve our goals is an act of the mature, the wise, and the
just. It is the difference between teaching a lesson and shoving it down someone’s
throat. It is the difference between eradicating an enemy or turning him into
your ally. Practicing prudence is what turns works of art into masterpieces.
Neither of these things are easy or natural to men like
me, but if being a gentleman was natural and easy we wouldn’t be all that
valuable, different or sought after, now would we?
